Life is made up of highs and lows and people of all ages experience it differently. When we are experiencing a “high” in some or several aspects of our life, we feel blessed, happy and fulfilled. We usually go out and tell people the good news and are compelled to celebrate our good luck, to share our joy with those most important to us and with those who helped us along the way.
When the opposite happens however, we tend to withdraw from everyone. Most of us would rather be alone when we’re sad, angry, frustrated, feeling hopeless or regretful. When we experience life from the low side, withdrawing from socialising can be helpful to your mental and emotional health but only if you do so for a short period of time. If you are feeling like you are at your lowest point in life, here are some things you can think about and do to help you feel better and to get back on your feet quicker.
1. Vent Out Your Emotions
If you’ve been holding on to some negative emotions for some time because of a problematic situation, now is the time to let them out. Cry out your sadness, write down your frustrations, eat a whole pint of ice cream while watching a drama, get angry, have a pity feast. Just be sure to not to do or destroy anything you will regret later. Give yourself a day or 2 to go through the process. Let your pent up emotions out but don’t dwell on them for too long.
Since you are emotionally vulnerable during this time, it is better to do this in a place familiar to you. Some people would rather get away to a new place to sort out their emotions. In both cases, it would be helpful to have a friend who understands what you’re going through so they can help you put a lid on things if you do get out of control. Remember though, your friend can only do so much. Only you can get yourself unstuck from your own emotions or mindset.
2. Get a Sense of Reality
When you have vented our your emotions, it’s time to take stock of the actual circumstances as they are and “face the music” as the saying goes. Unless you accept the situation as it is, you won’t be able to move on. This is where an understanding friend is most helpful, especially if they are someone who knows you personally but is not necessarily involved the situation.
It will be hard for most people to look at things without emotional attachment so a friend can serve as a more objective observer and can help you see things in a broader perspective. In this way, you can have a better understanding of the circumstances and the point of view of the other people involved in the situation. This is also the time to be grateful for the things that you have, the lessons you have learned and the people who support you. Use this better and clearer understanding of things to get an idea of how you can rise out from this low point in your life.
3. Start a Plan
Having vented out your emotions and finally with a clearer perspective on things, it’s time to quit feeling sorry for yourself and start to move forward. Ask yourself: What’s the best approach to turn things around? What should be my first step to clarify things or to solve a major obstacle?
Think about the bigger picture and your goals both in the immediate future and for the long-term. What do I need to do to start my journey to my major goal? Are my previous or current plans aligned with my goals? Write down your goals and next steps and think carefully about what you should do each day, weekly, etc. to get closer to your goals.
4. Put in The Work
Now that you have a plan, it’s time to put your plan into action. Plan your daily, weekly, monthly schedule. Organize your workspace to help you work more efficiently and be more productive. Talk to the people you need to in order to start the ball rolling. Connect with the right people who can help you carry out your goals. Take each day as they come and keep doing what you need to do to move things forward.
While you are putting in the work by connecting with other people, make sure to invest in yourself as well. Take that online course or attend that training to get the knowledge and skills you need for the next step in your plan. As you enhance your knowledge and develop your own set of skills, you will also meet new people who will help you grow even more.
5. Be There for Someone Else
Moving forward is the only solution to not stay in the situation you don’t like. But sometimes, even if we are already putting in the work according to our plan, certain situations still trigger the negative emotions that we wanted to get out of our system. This makes it hard to focus on our goals and may hinder our progress. What’s the next best thing to do?
Instead of focusing on just your goals, try to reach out to others who need help too. Be there for them even if just to listen to their predicament. Just like learning by teaching somebody else; when you focus your attention on someone’s else’s problems, you sometimes find inspiration or even the solution to your own predicament.
And even if you don’t, you will at least feel better knowing that you are not alone with your problems and that you are able to make someone feel better just by being a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on. This will also help you feel even more grateful for other people and circumstances that allowed you to start moving on from your own low point in life.
These are just some of the ways you can start feeling better and getting back on your feet when you experience a low point in your life. If you have been feeling down recently, you should check your emotional wellness. If you feel that you can’t handle things by yourself, you should consider getting professional help from a therapist or psychologist so you don’t fall into depression.
Remember that it is normal to experience a low point in life and you might not experience just one too. But as long as you try to get back up, you will get stronger and the next time you hit a low point in your life; the lessons you learned from the previous experience should help you recover even better than before.