It was just a typical day in my life. I went through my morning and afternoon routines without a glitch. Little did I know that my whole world would crumble right in front of me that day.
I lost the greatest love of my life that night in a parking lot accident. He just got out of the car to grab some coffee when a drunk driver hit the pavement. This resulted in multiple-car collision. Just like that, I lost my love. I lost my soul. I lost my heart. I lost every bit of hope I had left. I lost my joy. I lost my best friend. I lost my fiancé. I lost someone who could have been the father of my children. I’ve lost too many in a single night.
I never saw that day coming. Never in my wildest dreams did I even think of the possibility that one day we would separate just like that. Fate played a cruel trick on us. We were not even given a chance to say a proper goodbye to one another.
It has been a little more than a year since that fateful night. Up until now, I never had a good night’s sleep. I dread each night. I am scared to go to sleep. My mornings are no different. Every waking hour is a nightmare too. I would wake up everyday only to find myself in the same cycle, wishing that everything that happened was just a bad dream. My mind and my heart would always think about him. I could not help but think of things that I wish I could have done differently. If only …
They said that time heals all wounds. One day, this feeling of sadness and emptiness will gradually go away. And maybe, I can be happy again someday. For the time being, I find comfort in the thought that, as cliche as it may sound, my departed loved one is in a better place now.
My love, wherever you are, I know you are already at peace. I still miss you and think about you every breathing second 😔 You will forever be in my heart. I love you so much, babe ❤
If there is one thing that I’ve learned through all this, it is a fact that death may come unexpectedly. It comes like a thief in the night. And when it does, there is nothing that you can do except be strong. Although we can never be truly ready for the passing of loved one, we can cherish the people that we love right now before it is too late. Don’t end up regretting like I did.
Here are five things that you can do now to show your beloved how much you care:
1. Tell Them How Much They Mean to You
It is not enough that you show them how much they mean to you. You have to tell them too. Tell them how much you value them. A simple phone call or even a text message will do. Say “I love You” as often as you can.
2. Never Take Them For Granted
Appreciate your relationships right now. Oftentimes, we tend to take for granted people who are always there for us when we need them. Bear in mind that someday they might not be there. So, no matter how busy you are, make sure to spend quality time with the people who are dear to you because you will never know what will happen tomorrow.
3. Hug Them as Often as You Can
How many times have hugged your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends and those people who are dear to you? It only takes a second or two but it is sure way to let the other person feel that he/she is important to you.
4. Forgive Them
It is normal for people who loved one another to hurt each other, although unintentional. Parents and children fight, lovers quarrel and even friends argue. But, life is too short to be wasting time fighting or hating one another. Although it is not easy, learn to forgive your loved ones. Don’t let a day pass by without settling your differences.
5. Live Everyday as If It is Your Last
Realize that life is short. Don’t postpone what you can do today for tomorrow especially when it comes to your relationships. Kiss your loved ones before going to bed or before leaving. Make every moment count.
I hope you learned something from my story.
Louise Bianca Liwag lost her beloved in a multi-vehicle collision parking lot accident. They have been in a relationship for almost six years and were already planning to get married when the accident happened.